Thursday 14 August 2014

By Linda Ruiz





While conflict is a normal, it can cause great harm if it is frequent and mismanaged. If you argue all the time, argument becomes a habit and that leads to addiction and understanding how to mitigate and resolve personal conflict in your life from addiction is the only way out. Below are few ideas that can help you manage your conflict effectively.



Understanding your trouble is the first step to resolving any type of conflict. It means being able to identify the reason why you are always arguing with someone, even when it is not worth. Remember to take into account the effects of the argument as well. Once you understand what is bothering you, take time to think about the other partner now.



Now think about how others feel when you constantly argue with them over nothing. Think about how it breaks their heart every time you yell at each other and then think about the general effects the argument has on your relationship. Of course, you do not expect your partner or the other person to feel great in the midst of an argument, it will always be a feeling or remorse mixed with pain and hatred.



Find out what always lead to conflicts arising between you and the people that are next to you. It is not fair to ague because you feel like it or simply because you find nothing positive to say about the other person. Once you know what the triggers are, you will be able to identify the right remedy for the situation at hand.



Let no one talk when the other is talking because unless you listen to the other partner explain himself or herself, you will never go past the argument. The benefit of being attentive is that you begin to see the source of the problem and probable solution before hard. Once one partner is done explaining himself or herself, the other partner should pick without being interrupted.



Now that you have listened to what the other person had to say and had the chance to explain yourself, do not fight back. Instead, agree there has been a problem and have a desire to change. Have a further talk on what the two of you can do to handle matters like the one you have already dealt with in the past and how to live at peace with one another.



Forgive the past and let go. Most people always get back to the conflict and begin arguing repeatedly because they did not forgive the past. You cannot say you have solved conflicts successfully if you are still holding on to the past and not willing to let go. Letting go may seem difficult, but holding to the past is pointless and as well as useless.



Additionally, decide that you want to have a healthy relationship with people. Of course, you will argue from time to time. Just remember not to let the arguments rule you.









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