Friday 15 August 2014

By Linda Ruiz





Personal conflict normally takes many forms. The various forms vary, with some being serious than others. Conflicts arise from the long term choices that individual make as well as the immediate decisions that we make. The way a person solves them greatly depends on his or her character and integrity. Personal conflict mitigation and resolution is important to every individual.



To begin with, it is significant to establish the various sources of personal conflicts. First, the issue of taking responsibility takes a larger portion of conflicts. We have to decide whether we shall take responsibilities and consequences as well or not. Many of us also have challenges with ethics. Taking vengeance is another source. Most of us find it difficult to get back to persons who offended us.



Many people get conflicts in trying to make decisions that are big and are going to change our life. We also have challenges when deciding whether or not to engage in activities that may not be morally right but are done by our peers. We get destructed for choosing not to do so. We are supposed to know how to lessen and handle personal conflicts. These conflicts can lead to health problems if we do not manage them properly.



It is advisable to write down feelings. This should be done in a journal and kept safe for privacy. In case of conflicts, an individual should create a personal time. This is the time to meditate and engage in an activity that one loves best. This helps to ease a person. An individual may for example take a walk in a quiet place listening to music.



We should also teach ourselves to respond to situations as opposed to reacting. This will help us avoid arguments. We must not always have the desire to win arguments at all times. A person can impact a lot by giving in at times. We ought to be good listeners too and let others express their feelings fully. We should also avoid drawing much attention towards ourselves by desisting from talking too much of ourselves. We must also manage emotional response. When need arises, we should see a counselor to help express emotions.



You should identify your personal conflict style which will aid you in improving those ways that you use when faced with hard situations. The styles are the behaviors that you portray when you are in difficult and involving situations. Competition is an example of the styles. This is your style in case you find yourself aggressive and defensive in times of conflict. You can use it when you want to make quick decisions.



Collaborative management style. This is a style where one tries to bring people together in trying to find a solution. In this case, everyone is a winner, and each view counts. This style is highly cooperative. At the end, everyone is satisfied. Avoidance is also a style where an individual will chose to avoid arguments. This is for those who are not confident of solving the situation.



Finally, accommodation style. This is where we put the need of others ahead of ours. By doing this we encourage cooperation. We also have to be ready to take orders from others. This is a style for peace with others.









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