Friday 22 August 2014

By Deanne Shepard





The consensus for most people who have undergone the trials and tribulations of addictions is that they came through because someone in their life practiced unconditional love. Perhaps this person took a view from online information and support resources for addiction and followed the helpful guidelines.



Life pressures can sometimes mean that people need to find a way to escape in order to cope. When things constantly go wrong or seem boring, people can become quite erratic and end up with some form of fixation or another. They are not after sabotaging their lives, they just want something that will give them hope that things can get better. Once they are in this happy zone it can be hard to face the mundane routines of life and therefore staying in the zone seems to be the safest option.



From an outsiders point of view people should naturally be able to cope with anything that life throws at them. These are the type of people who are often pointing fingers and making the problem worse. Their superiority views that a person should be able to control themselves often increase the volatile situation. Every person deserves a chance to prove that they are worth something and sometimes it means they have to go through painful trial in order to achieve this.



Understanding goes a very long way in securing the belief in a person. After a while when a person has been in a fixated state for a very long time they tend to be numb to the destruction around them. Therefore to pull them back into the world where they have to feel again requires patience and not dictatorship. By increasing the negative feelings, through lack of proper understanding only causes the situation to be severely worse.



Individuals have various forms of monkeys on their backs that cause them to act irrationally. However, when they are in the clutches of this, it is not an easy task bringing them back. The problem is increased if you the assisting party actually continues down the path of self righteousness therefore increase the negative feelings that feed off the person. Addicts will find any reason to assume their activities regardless of what happens to them.



Noticing the outward signs and giving the person an option instead of an ultimatum often works better. This way they feel that they have a choice because they are already at their lowest. Adding more pressures through giving them threats or any such actions often leads them down the darker path.



The minute someone experiences a great high through any addictive substance or act, it can be hard to come down to reality. Suddenly life seems to be like a 2 D movie that does not bring any essence of happiness. The need to get back to the happy place becomes the obsession especially since the brain is in control.



Love is a good foundation in that it give you the strength to carry on when you would otherwise give up. While at the time this might not be returned, you should accept that practical solutions do need to be applied too.









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