Saturday 22 August 2015

By Nancy Gardner


The answers you give to the questions posed in magazines or on the worldwide web about romance reveal your inner thoughts about your partner. It is clear that these true love tests are entertaining. They can also give some clues on whether the two of you are well suited for a lengthy relationship.

Loneliness is one factor that drives individuals towards forging domestic partnerships. But there are other reasons to become part of a couple, including overall health. Scientists have confirmed that those who live with committed partners have lower rates of chronic diseases than people living alone.

Given this fact, you would be well advised to realize that a quiz on compatibility may produce results that are superficial compared to what you need to know to figure out if your current partnership situation will stand the test of time. Sure, it helps to see whether you both enjoy the cinema and fine dining. But these factors alone cannot guarantee you will have longer-term success as a couple.

Sexual desire plays a role in this. It is a good sign if your heart flutters when you see your lover for the first time each day. Wanting to touch and be close as often as possible is a solid indicator of your long-term prospects, but only if this does not also include a strong tendency to be possessive. Most experts will advise you to stay clear of someone who seems to want to own or control you, as this can be seen as being abusive.

Also, do not be fooled into thinking you have to agree with each other all the time in order to be happy and stay together. It is rare to find a couple that is on the same page in every given situation. One key to a lasting relationship is the ability to argue with confidence in a respectful manner without getting carried away. This means listening thoroughly to your partner before committing to a position on important issues.

Having complementary views on such matters as spirituality, fidelity and being truthful can also be a major contributor to longevity in a romance. Many people who have been raised in similar circumstances may already share core beliefs in these areas. However, it is also possible for those with different backgrounds to discover that their values match up very well.

Seeing eye to eye on practical issues relating to money and family size is equally important. Yet surprisingly, many couples wed without having shared their true feelings about these topics. This can lead to breakups down the road, and it is not unusual for couples to seek counseling to save a relationship when one person is a saver and the other a spender, or because they cannot agree on how many children to have.

Troubles like these can be mitigated in advance if both parties engage fully in honest communication when the relationship is starting to blossom. The responses you both give to love tests can show you whether you are likely to get along on a superficial level. However, if you want to find out if you could be successful as long-term partners, you will have to be daring enough at some point to tell the absolute truth about your inner desires and what you want out of life.




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