Thursday 22 January 2015

By Janine Hughes





There are many concepts that can be understood worldwide but when it comes to love it is a whole different story. Once in a while a relationship must experience some form of insecurities. It is when it becomes too much that it is considered that that relationship might be on the ropes. This insecurities result into unnecessary anxiety. Provided that one steers themselves well when dealing with insecurities in a relationship, your marriage or engagement might just endure the storm and remain intact.



First the notion that the whole world revolves around your doorstep is one of the causes of insecurities. Self-centered behaviors result into trivial misunderstandings resulting into serious problems. When your partners refuse to eat, there are those who readily assume it might be an indirect criticism of their cooking probably.



At times one should take time to reflect on exactly what is bringing about such thoughts. As long as your spouse has not displayed any indication of infidelity, engaging in such thinking is unproductive. Sometimes it might be your frustration or anger that brings about such feelings.



On suspecting something hidden or sinister in their tone or posture, you do not have to take a confrontational approach. This only drives the individual further away as they automatically shift into defensive gear too. Exercising restraint and patience is usually the most advisable option.



There are those who spent the whole day trying to figure out exactly what their partner has on their mind. Burdening themselves with such thoughts only weighs their brain with unnecessary anxiety. This is followed by constant psychoanalysis that only worsens the situation. Every action or statement made by one partner shall be interpreted to mean something else. Everyone requires having their own privacy and space at times. Constantly inquiring on the exploits, unspoken thoughts or intentions of another can breed resentment.



As for those who are overwhelmed by the fears of their partners abandoning them, they should not imagine worst case scenarios. The end of one relationship does not mean that the world will come caving in. Whatever one had with their partner ends and they are at liberty to find another and begin another.



Fear can arise out of one scared of undergoing rejection on the end of their relationship. Having this feelings are usually natural for any person. However thinking the worst of your situation does not make the situation any better and puts you in an unnecessary yoke. At times the main cause of the contention might be a really bad mood. There are several causes that might bring about a dampening in your moods.



The purpose of a relationship is to bring joy and fulfill the person. After loving and trusting your partner, concentrate on the good and not on evil thoughts based on trivialities. That way the relationship can flourish eventually. Any relationship has ups and downs, therefore, the ideal thing to do everything possible to ensure things work out.









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