Monday 28 July 2014

By Sharron Cantu





People have an innate desire to want to develop special relationships with others. There may be times where it's not so easy to do so, especially if one really doesn't know the first step. Many individuals suffer from being shy as well as a lack of confidence. Knowing how to approach an individual may also be an obstacle. Some just need some helpful tips on how to make good friends.



In order to have friends, one must make themselves appear to be friendly. Putting oneself in an environment makes it possible to initiate relationships. Those that go to college or work on the job may want to approach individuals sitting at a table for lunch. Avoid the temptation to always want to be with the "in-crowd." Real buddies like you for who you are and not for who you know.



Friends can sometimes be found in organizations or clubs where there is a common interest. However, great relationships can develop between people that have absolutely nothing in common. Some join social networks and develop relationships by just making small talk. Those that have a place of worship often find that it is a wonderful way to make friends because having the same faith is a commonality.



Communication is so very important when starting a friendship. Positive body language along with the willingness to open ones mouth to start a conversation is always key. This can be done simply by asking someone for help. Sometimes giving someone a compliment at a time they may have needed it the most can be a great conversation starter. By the end of the conversation, a formal introduction can be made. The next time the individual is seen, facts from the previous conversation can be brought up inciting interest.



When the individual breaks the ice, it's time to initiate some on-on-one time. This is simply going out for a cup of coffee, or a bite to eat. It's time to move past the small conversations and actually get to know the person. Be open to give out your email address or phone number to let the other person know that you're showing yourself friendly.



Learning not to pressure a person is good advice when it comes to building friendships. Relationships need to run their course, without being forced. When an individual is forced into something too soon, catastrophe is soon to follow. Putting unnecessary pressure on someone often brings about stress as well as regret.



Being loyal is a great way to build a friendship that lasts. It means being with someone in the good times and the bad times. It doesn't matter what type of negative situation that they're in, because a great acquaintance doesn't pass judgement. They are always there for support. They are trustworthy. When they say they're going to be somewhere, they are sure to show up. Good friends don't leave their buddies waiting without giving them the simple courtesy of a phone call.



The best acquaintances are those that are trustworthy and are good listeners. One finds that those that are trustworthy are ones that can be told a secret, and keep it until the day that they die. Great listeners are ones that sit back and let the individual express their feelings without always feeling the need to jump in and offer some advice. Good friends are hard to come by, but priceless when obtained.









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