Saturday 7 March 2015

By Leslie Ball





There are many different types of relationships. Codependent ones are recognized as dysfunctional. This is because they include a person who support or enables the addiction, poor mental health, underachievement, immaturity or irresponsibility of another individual. A major sign of codependency is excessive reliance on others for approval and identity.



This concept is thought to have come from Alcoholics Anonymous. During the AA process, it is often discovered that issues are not just those of the addict but also their friends and family members. The co-dependent ideology ties into old psychoanalytic theory that passive dependent personalities will attach to those with strong personalities. Dependency is used often in psychology literature.



Different symptoms and behaviors are attached to this. This is especially the case because the concept has grassroots beginnings. The definition for this action may vary based on the source. In general, it is considered either subclinical and situational, or an episodic behavior of those with dependent personality disorders.



Broadly speaking, a co-dependent is one who is unable to function from her or his own self. The behaviors and thinking of those persons is organized around that of another person, substance or process. People who are addicted to drugs, sex, gambling or other things might therefore be considered codependent. A raw definition of it suggests that a person must be psychologically or physically addicted and the other person is psychologically dependent on the behavior. Sometimes people use the terminology dysfunctional family rather than attaching co-dependent to classify the disease.



Showing caring behaviors and feelings does not mean one should be considered co-dependent. In fact, this term is only assigned when a person becomes excessive to a point where it is unhealthy for all parties involves. Empathy and caregiving are, in healthy relationships, the result of conscious decisions. Co-dependents are typically seen as compulsive in their actions. They take little to no time when considering possible sacrifices and consequences associated with their actions.



Various scholars and treatment providers believe that this behavior is a sign of over-responsibility. This is the result of good impulses going awry. Responsibility for relationships with other people must be balanced with responsibility to self.



This is recognized as a disease in which people have lost sight of themselves. In many of these cases, people give less priority to their own needs and are instead preoccupied with those of others. These relationships typically involve issues around intimacy, high reactivity, denial, dependency, boundaries, dysfunctional communication and control. Often there is some imbalance between the two parties involved, with one person being abusive or completely in control, or enabling or supporting the bad behavior of the other person.



Co-dependents usually have symptoms such as: intense and unstable interpersonal relationships, denial, dishonesty, overwhelming need to be accepted, external referencing and low-self worth. They might be incapable of being alone, have chronic boredom or emptiness, subordinate their needs for those of others, and seek constant affection. This kind of behavior can occur in any type of relationship, including romantic, work, family, friend, community or peer. People who recognize these dysfunctional situations should get professional help as soon as possible.









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